I am not Wonder-Woman, although some people think I am…
Most of the time, I choose to be a busy crazy person. I enjoy organizing chaos, but sometimes, I do get overwhelmed, because chaos is not meant to be tamed. Chaos is meant to be crazy, sporadic, and unpredictable. It plays a vital role in maintaining balance in the Universe and us, human-beings, often have this unhealthy need to control it, confined it, or eliminate it, when all we really need to do is just let it go.
Chaos can sometimes feel like the Warner Brother’s Tasmanian Devil, sweeping in like a crazy tornado, kicking up a mess of things into the air, just to find out later that they all fall back down in perfect order afterwards. It’s the chaotic act of things going up in the air that bothers us the most and rarely do we ever just step back and see what happens.
Although we cannot control chaos itself, we do have the ability to regulate how much chaos we allow into our lives and we can certainly guide chaos along a more healthier path.
Just like flash floods, we cannot control the force of a flood or when they happen, but we can set up cement barriers to help guide it a certain way to avoid a complete catastrophe when they do happen. Guiding chaos is kind of like that, by setting up emotional barriers that allow us to recognize the chaos, respect the chaos, and guide it away safely so that we do not get emotionally attached, for that emotional attachments is what fuels chaos and our need to control it.
Everyone has a little chaos in their lives, most of the time chaos is tolerable (not always controllable); however, there are times when chaos can become extremely overwhelming. The flash-flood types of chaos is what we need emotional barriers for, not to prevent chaos, but more so to help reduce the impact of overwhelming emotions that might make chaotic situations worse. Every chaotic situation, requires a quiet calm mind to achieve balance and resolution.
Emotional barriers should be accepting not cold. Accepting chaos allows us to better calm the mind. Recognize and respect the chaotic situation and take a step back. Breathe. Then, disconnect emotionally, (emotional attachments cause emotional suffering) so that the mind can think more clearly. Sometimes, chaos just has to run its course, or perhaps just needs a gently nudge into a different direction. Nonetheless, chaos cannot be controlled.
Although you cannot control chaos, you can certainly control how you react to chaos. Taking a step back and disconnecting emotionally, helps you make better decisions. Perhaps it is a situation you need to panic and run away from, or it’s a situation that is frustrating, but would best be resolved if you were to remain calm, cool, and collected. If we over-react, we cannot think clearly, and the situation either worsens or we get stuck with emotional suffering while the situation resolves itself. Sometimes, there is nothing we can do about chaos, but that doesn’t mean we can’t make the best of a chaotic situation.
Nothing is ever black and white, so there is always room for a brighter side of even the most terrible of things. A new perspective to a chaotic situation is another way to reduce emotional suffering and better guide chaos a long its way.
Fear fuels chaos too, so be sure to look chaos straight in the eye and don’t blink! We can all try to prevent bad things from happening, but bad things will find a way to happen anyway (it’s part of the Universal balance). It is best to deal with things as they come, because worrying is nothing but wasted energy, especially, if the things we worry about never come. This is why it is so important to focus on the present rather than an unpredictable future. Plan, make goals, take precautions, but also enjoy life to the fullest.
In short, when chaos is reigning down upon you, stop, breathe, take a step-back and see what happens. Sometimes you don’t need to do anything but let it run its course and yet, sometimes, you need to guide it into a different direction without your emotions trying to take full control of the situation.