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Hardly a coincidence, don’t you think?
Life is funny this way, as little things like this happen to me…a lot. Coincidence? Perhaps not…
As you may know, I’ve been in paradise putting my minimalistic and organizational super-powers to good use, helping my mother get the ball rolling on finishing an endless list of unfinished projects around the house. It is an overwhelming, stressful, sandal-strap breaking challenge, but I think I got her started in the right direction. It’s all about setting goals!
Unfortunately, you can set as many goals as you like, but to achieve those goals requires motivation to accomplish them. How does one gain motivation, especially, with so many overwhelming goals? What needs to change? As usual, the answer to my questions are never too far away and I am not talking about the Internet…
Is It Coincidence…Answers Under The Couch?
My mother taught me a long time ago to “listen to the Universe” or “God,” whomever you prefer, or frankly, whomever speaks the loudest. My point is, that I strongly believe that the answers we seek can be found within reach from somewhere; you just have to be patient and open-minded, for that these answers can come from very unexpected places.
As I was cleaning, I decided I would clean underneath the couches; a place that probably hasn’t been cleaned in years….
Surprisingly, it wasn’t that bad. In fact, the only thing that was under the couch was a book. A small black book, called, “This Year I Will…,” by M. J. Ryan from 2006.
I didn’t think anything of it and tossed it in the collection bin of other misplaced books I had found while cleaning the house. But, without a cover, I was curiously drawn to it.
I like to read before bed, so that night I decided to check out the small book that I found under the couch. It is a book about accomplishing personal goals….what a coincidence!
Insightful, Helpful, and Encouraging: A Book Review (Affiliated Links)
“This Year I Will….,” by M. J. Ryan, was exactly what I needed to read! It was perfectly relatable to my mother’s current situation. Furthermore, it even encouraged me to work on my own personal goals (like losing weight).
I like non-fiction self-help books that are mixed with relatable personal stories, suggested techniques to try, and references by “the” experts. This book has everything that I like! It talks about the neuroscience behind the habits that prevent us from accomplishing our goals as well as, providing clear, simple, to-the-point changes to overcome those habits.
The Power Of A Positive Mind To Change Bad Habits
The author, M. J. Ryan, references ideas by “organizational consultant, Robert Fritz,” author of “The Path of Least Resistance.” He strongly believes that motivation is driven by positive, passionate, thoughts and ideas.
For example, the reason I cannot stick to my goal of losing weight, is because there is no positive, passionate, motivation behind it. I’d like to lose weight to become healthier, but like clockwork every year, I jump into a routine that fizzles out by the end of January. This is most likely, because I am not positively, passionate about becoming healthier. Truthfully, I am not. Not a single cell in body is passionate about becoming healthier, especially, if it means dieting and exercise. However, according to Fritz, I can motivate my stubborn cells (myself) to accomplish my weight loss goal by thinking of a positive, passionate, motivating end result; such as doing it for my kids. My kids need me to be healthy and I am super passionate about doing things for my kids.
I am currently day three into an exercise program (walking), meeting my daily step goals. I am passionate about it! I made my routine exercise into a game; something in which Ryan talks about, stating that we tend to accomplish things that are fun rather than boring. So, I am not focused on weight loss (although that is the preferred end-result), but rather on how many steps I am getting per day. I try to do more steps than the day before (beating yesterday’s step goal). It keeps me motivated and mildly entertained. Unfortuantely, I have a long way to go, as yesterday, I blew out a shoe and my flabby fat arms rubbed raw with friction. Wasn’t a pleasant feeling, but it is totally worth it for my kids!
A Book Worth Finishing : Don’t Think About Donuts
I was quickly motivated to start a workout program just by reading the first 39 pages of “This Year I Will….,” by M. J. Ryan, Very few books have that effect on me; however, there is just something about this book that I love and trust. Plus, I am never shy of trying anything new, different, or interesting.
I like this book, because the author is very thorough in backing up ideas with psychological concepts. Having OCD, I am well aware of the psychological mind game, “Don’t Think About Pink Rabbits,” or in Ryan’s book, “Don’t Think About Donuts.” The point of this mind game, is that no matter how much you try to not think about something, you are going to think about it anyways. It demonstrates thinking habits and Ryan ties this in perfectly to support the ideas that habits impact motivation and goals. No spoil alerts, you just have to read it yourself, but Ryan actually explains, neurologically, why this happens, and it’s fascinating!
I always feel the first couple chapters of a book defines the value of a good book, so far, this book has caught my attention and seems worth finishing. I am almost finished with this book and I am not yet disappointed. The book dives much deeper into building goals and ways to stay on track with goals. Whether this book leads to success, I am not sure; that part is largely up to me as I begin to embark on a daily workout routine to accomplish my own personal health goal.
Finding Positive, Passionate, Motivation For My Mother
Putting new concepts and strategies into practice is always “easier said, than done.” Interestingly, this book explains why that is, in which is another reason why I recommend reading (or even just glancing at) this book. As for my mother, I am sure my mother has read this book and I just have to encourage her to think of something passionately positive to motivate her to finish the projects she starts. Changing thinking habits are challenging, I know (OCD), but it is amazing what one can accomplish with a new positive mind-set!
Have you ever encountered a helpful coincidence?